So today I was back at the airport for the first time since flying back from Kenya 3 years ago.
I felt like a deja vu kinda thing happening. I had to head out there for work to meet some of the guys we’d recruited for work and it was just a causal meet and greet before they headed for their shift up north, but just being in the airport was weird. The last 8 times I have walked through those doors I was either flying to or from Kenya.
People ask if I will ever go back, and I don’t think I’m strong enough for it. I love Africa, and yes I will go back someday. But not to Kakamega. I have a house there and I know people, but I can’t go there. I’d love to travel to maybe Egypt to see the pyramids or something if it ever settles down in the area, or back to South Africa and Namibia again. But, no. I will not be going back to Kenya. There are too many memories I don’t want to have too deal with.
In the same way I will not be going back to E. He actually had the audacity to send me a text last week asking me to forgive him, and that we get the family back together.
UMMMM What?!??! Are you delusional? Ohhhh wait. Yes, you are. Here I am, just wanting this stupid divorce to be done with and finalized. It’s been over 3 years of back and forth and him being a dick. And now he wants to get back together. Like are you fucking daft? It’s not the first time he’s asked me to get back with him, but I honestly can’t believe that after everything I went through, he would think I would want to go back.
So I texted him back and in the most polite and simple way (I’ve learned to use small words with E) explained that, I have forgiven him as best I can, but that doesn’t mean we will be getting back together. A couple days later I got a call from him and I asked if he understood what I wrote. He said sort of, but he just thought we should be done with this divorce and move on. I told him this isn’t some “phase” I’m going through. The only “moving on” I’m doing is without him. 3 years and he still thinks this is a joke or something.
So I asked him if he thought I enjoyed being his wife, if he thought it was nice for me. He said yes. So I asked him to name 3 times it was pleasant for me to be his wife. That’s less than one occasion per year of marriage.
The phone is silent on his end. A good solid 30 seconds go by before he responds with “That’s a tricky question”
That’s the problem E. It shouldn’t be a tricky question. You can’t even think of ONE time where it was somewhat nice to be married to you. And you think I should do it again? This is your last ditch effort to win me back? Fuck. No.
I’ve tasted freedom. And however hard and shitty and difficult and sad and lonely it may be sometimes… most times…It’s infinitely better then being with E.
-Taylor Swift/We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together-