Some of you have asked why I even bother with K anymore like writing to him etc.
K has been there for me in ways I can't even explain, but I'll give you a few examples.
One simple time that crosses my mind was once when I got high, and we were on the phone. I got a little paranoid and I remember him just talking me through it. You'd think I was giving birth the way he was coaching me.
'Breathe, in, out, nice and slow. It'll be ok. Just in and out, count to five' Then he needed to go since he worked the next morning but I was still a little paranoid and didn't want him to get off the phone. So he stayed on the phone with me until we both fell asleep. I woke up around 3 in the morning to the beep beep of my phone ending a call. I still don't know if he woke up and hung up or we just got disconnected somehow, but when I checked my phone the next morning turns out it was close to a 6 hour call. Most of it just sleeping. And it made me so happy that he acknowledged I needed him, and so he stayed for me.
Another time K was there for me was a little more intense. One Saturday morning I was having issues with my epilepsy and woke up apparently with some memory issues. I guess I had had a dream about K that night and either I called him to tell him, or he called me to chat and I wanted to tell him about my dream, but I kept repeating myself. He got pretty concerned about me and so he called his mom (who is a nurse or works in the medical field somehow) for advice about what to do.
Him and his mom conference called me and after a few minutes on the phone with me, his mom was like K you need to take her to the hospital.
But I was adamant about not going, since I know from all my experiences there, that there was nothing they would do, and it would just be a waste of my time and end in a large bill. So I did my best to be polite, since it was his mom, but I basically told his mom I would outright not take her advice. In my most polite and respectful way of course.
So he said goodbye to his mom and stayed on the phone with me some more. I guess I was still acting strange enough for him to get me to give him my sister N's number.
He knows N lives right down the street from me and that we're fairly close, and so he called her and explained what was going on so she could come take care of me. N was there in her pjs in less then 10 minutes with her husband D close behind to occupy the kids. She said she was still in bed and almost didn't answer K's call because it was a number she didn't recognize. Then once she did, she was so confused about who this man with this super deep manly voice (drool) was. But she was super impressed about how he handled the situation. I guess he told her everything he heard on the phone and wasn't sure how to handle it himself since he'd never dealt with seizures before, and wanted to make sure someone with experience was with me in case I seized.
Me personally, I just wanted K to come and be with me, and kinda felt like he was passing the buck, but thinking back, he dealt with it so well. Especially after hearing his reasoning behind his behaviour. And all his actions lead me to believe with really cared for me when I needed it. When I couldn't care for myself. When I couldn't give back. It's this mixed with all the other little things like buying me flowers on my birthday and leaving me singing voicemails on Mother's Day with made up songs knowing how much I hate the day, but still trying to make it good for me. Or helping me put my treadmill together or little E's new bunk bed… well he did that mostly himself since he showed up on my day off while I was high so I was pretty much useless. Or taking the time to teach little E to tie his shoes or watching kids movies with them. Or sharing simple quite moments with me where we didn't feel the need to talk, we could just be. Be ourselves because we were totally at peace with ourselves around each other.
These are why I will support K while he needs it. While he can't do anything for me. Because he has been there for me when I needed it and I had nothing to give in return. That's what friends do. And I will continue to do so until I see reason to do otherwise.
And yep, double post day because my kids are away!
-John Legend/Stay With You-